I am a firm believer in the fact that desired change should be implemented immediately and hoping that a new year will suddenly mean a brand new start is feeble if you rely on a social construct like time to be the only reason for bettering yourself.
Equally, however, the attractiveness of having a fresh year to introduce new changes in your life is satisfying on a level I can’t deny. In my own experience, I’ve vowed to myself so many times that I’d change in big, life-altering ways and it has led to nothing but disappointment at myself as I’ve been unable to keep up.
Now I’m less harsh on myself and a little more selective in choosing the goals I claim to want. Something that has always been very obvious to me is that you’ll make time and put in the effort for things you truly want. The excuse I avoid at all costs now is that I ‘don’t have time’ for something, because if I want it then I know I’ll make time for it regardless of what it is. If I have to come up with excuses like that then it’s clear to me that it’s not something I properly want to change.
As such, I decided that my goals for the coming year were going to be low-risk, positivity-inducing aims that have no negative consequences or impacts in my life. The reason for trying to make such cheery goals is honestly because I want to be happy and enjoy myself as much as possible, without constantly trying to berate myself or attempt to set such high standards for myself that I work myself silly trying to achieve them. I want to be content being wrong, making mistakes and embracing the new experiences that come my way, and I think this kind of mindset requires a mental makeover before I can become comfortable feeling like this. Without further ado, the changes we’re making in 2019 are as follows:
- See the sun as much as possible – I’m not sure quite what has overcome me recently but my desire to be outside and in the sun has been amplified significantly. I don’t even think it’s due to the gloomy winter weather, but the peace I feel when I look at the sun in the sky is incomparable nowadays.
- Say ‘no’ less – I was a bit iffy on this one, but I trust my instinct to make the call whether it’s appropriate to say yes or no. Besides, a few misguided experiences make, if nothing else, good stories to share.
- Spend more time with people who make me happy –This is a big one! I love talking to people, especially my friends, and I am extremely extroverted around them. I sincerely hope the new year sees me making more friends, meeting new people and spending time having fun with them, besides studying.
The eventual culmination of all these goals will hopefully lead to a year in which I feel more comfortable with myself and have a stronger voice to speak with. Finding the right balance between accepting my capabilities and pushing out of my comfort zone is proving to be really difficult for me but I have every faith that I will find it soon. As much as I have expressed how I don’t want to put pressure on myself, which I have a habit of doing, I want to do things that I’ve never done before and try my best to put myself out there too.
The only person standing in the way of my dreams is myself and I’ve acknowledged that wholeheartedly; Now to do something about it!
Wishing you all a very successful, prosperous and exciting 2019!